Anatomy of Anger
Try out this anger awareness exercise and see if it helps unlock a complicated emotion.
Suggestion:
 | Draw an iceberg on a piece of paper with the water revealing about 10% of the tip. Label the tip as Anger. |
| Think about a time you felt angry in a situation. |
| Write the things you did with your anger above the water. |
| Check the ways to understand and control anger section. What type of choices did you make? What happened as a result? |
| Since anger is always the second emotion, think about the first feeling(s) you had in the experience and write them under the surface of the "water line." Examples: Hurt, betrayal, jealousy, vulnerablity or frustration. |
| Did the problem get solved? Do you need to tell the people involved how you felt? |
| Do they need to use the anger iceberg to figure out what their responsibility is? |
| Evaluate your choices and include what might have happened if you used an assertive response. |
